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Hello Michael

I couldn't agree with you more - it think it takes more than a change of surname to see any significant changes in onself.

Like you mentioned, there are many variables. However, the use of Grapho-therapy done correctly and diligently has brought about positive changes. It is all to do with creating new neurological pathways.

I have included the following article, which I wrote at a time when all this childhood conditioning thing was churning around in my head, as I have seen so many people talented people wasted because of limitations caused by their upbringing.

UNDER MASS HYPNOSIS:

From early childhood our parents may teach us constructive and edifying things. On the other hand, they can unintentionally inject our minds with their fears, negative traits, false belief systems and many other destructive and harmful ideologies.

This is of course not their fault entirely; they too were probably subjected to the same falsehoods by their parents. As children we are very vulnerable and impressionable. We take to heart and believe the things which on closer examination we are likely to find their substance shallow and unfounded.

These things become preconceived ideas embedded into our subconscious mind, which we inevitably take with us in adulthood.

In addition to this, as adults we often create new kinds of fears and insecurities. This can create an unhappy environment in which we live and additional inadequacies in our personality.
We may remain in an unfulfilled relationship, a job we dislike or live in a place not to our liking.

To change these unhappy states it takes the courage to make that step forward. That step does have to mean making radical changes to our life but just taking one step at a time will suffice.

The trouble is that we become comfortable with habits, even if those habits are the cause of our unhappiness. To us it is the 'comfort zone'.

Nevertheless, to create magic in our life, we do need to make changes.

Oftentimes, we end up living other people's lives instead of living our own. We allow society at large to control and influence our thoughts, polluting our minds with their own views and superstitious beliefs. Our conscience then becomes other people's views, ideas and fears imposed upon us.

This can affect:

* The way we think and what we think
* Where we live and how we live
* Where we shop and what brands we buy
* How we view the opposite sex
* What is or isn't attractive to us
* How we relate to each other
* Our preferences (likes and dislikes)
* What we find morally acceptable
* And the list goes on

Literally it can infiltrate our whole being and affect our constitution to varying degrees. This happens to us even although we may be unaware of it. There is no doubt that we are all influenced and affected by our surroundings.

They become what we are and we are what we think all day long...

END

I was listening to a debate once about how we unconsciously try to create the same environment as what we were use to as children. Apparently, the reason for this is because it is what we are use to - the 'comfort zone' again!

For instance, it was said that a female child who constantly witnessed her mother being ill-treated by her father was more likely to end up with the same type of partner.

I don't know how true this is of course, but it was an interesting topic.

All the best,

Susan Tuckett.

> The names put forward as belonging in the
> first half of the alphabet were mostly
> politicians.

> I'm sorry... but holding a pollie up as
> something to aspire to isn't MY idea of a
> good role-model.

> In fact, I have to agree with a particular
> author, whose name escapes me for the
> moment, when he said something like: people
> who Want to be politicians and leaders of
> countries are NOT the people who should be
> given the job. Those who do not want it
> should be given it and will make better
> leaders.

> Also, while the names may be spread evenly
> throughout the English alphabet, are they
> traditional English names or are the names
> which have been Englisized?

> I may be able to write and pronounce
> Streisand but that doesn't mean it's a
> traditional English name.

> And how much "success" is passed
> down merely to be held on to by the younger
> members of a particular family?

> There are too many variables and un-answered
> questions for such a blanket statement that,
> you have more chance of being rich if your
> name is in the first half of the alphabet,
> to be viable.

> Michael Ross.