A dear friend of mine....
 

is feeling down and it saddens me.

This person is normally very happy, energetic and a great source of inspiration to anyone they come in contact with. But lately they have been feeling the pressure of things just not working out in their favor.

Great expectations and goals have been eagerly worked towards, everything has been done properly and to their fullest potential, yet the rewards have been few and far between. It seems the takers are much more abundant than the givers.

It saddens me to no ends to see a person of this intellectual and spiritual magnitude begin to loose ground.

When "rock bottom" looms it's ugly head for the umpteenth time in just a few months, what is a person to do?

Paul


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Realise that...........
 

.....nothing lasts forever, hardship included. There's always tomorrow, no matter how hard it seems, anything’s possible.

Plus there is always someone worse off, no matter how bad the situation is. No matter how bad it gets, there will always be another chance, another way, another try. The day you fail is the day you quit, winners never quit and quitters never win, imagine quitting when you’re just one small step away from success, in fact as long as you stay in the game, you can never fail.

The best victory is usually the one most hard fought. Sure it’s hard now, almost insurmountable, but the day will come when the success will be realised, it has to as long as you stay in the game, because the moment you quit the game, that’s the moment the game is over and the loss realised.

Who dares…wins, everyday, always, as long as you keep daring.

Richard.

God, it’s great to be alive……..now if I could just figure out women and how to program my VCR.

Re: A dear friend of mine....
 

This to shall pass....

If you're asking what you can do to help
I have a suggestion:
1)get your friend a wonderful journal
(one of those books with blank pages you
find in the bookstore)
2) a copy of "Simple Abundance"
3) an inexpensive color coordinated pen to
go with the book
4) a small pocket size tissue pack
5) a sweet card expressing how much you care
for them
Put all these things into a basket...wrap with
colored cellophane and coordinate the colors.
They'll love it....
Journaling can be very therapeutic...writing
about your life moments is like capturing a
scene on a picture only in the written
word.

You 're a great friend...

oh that's easy
 

> For both of them it's a matter of
pushing the right buttons....;-)

Personal Experience
 

Paul,

Great question...

I don't claim to be an expert, but let me share
a personal experience with you...

I am in the Anthony Robbins Results Partnership,
and my success coach was going over some of the
same issues you brought up with me just yesterday.

I too have been "bustin' A" and don't always feel
I'm getting the optimum results I want compared
to the effort put forth.

Let me tell you what he told me, and it's already
had a profound impact. You can share it with
your friend if you so desire...

He got me to think about a time in my life
when everything was going right and things
were completely falling into place.

He then asked me...

What was your state of mind at that time? How
did you feel? Capture that feeling. What
kind of a trigger can you use to tap into that
whenever you need or want to?

It's really all about your emotional state. Then,
he got me to do a "power move" where I instantly
got back "into the zone".

Before Tony Robbins takes the stage, he draws
upon his inner resources and gets "into the zone"
within nanoseconds...we ALL can do the same thing.

The thing is, when your emotional state is in a
peak performance mode, results follow. Your
brain automatically steers you to where you need
to go.

I'm not a psychic, but I've experienced this
personally.

Am I making any sense here? Julie Jordan Scott
can probably fill in some missing words that I
left out as well.

Julie, are you there?

But it really is all about tapping into resources
that are already present to steer you to your
ultimate outcome. Mental pictures, positive
affirmations, all these tools do indeed play a
part in addition to being in a peak state as
often as possible.

Paul, I've been been there and done that but the
only person that can pull out of a mental funk
is yourself.

Hope this helps!

Mike


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Failure is a powerful Success Force
 

Hi Paul,

My comments might be irrelevant to your friend since I don't know very much about your friend's situation, but anyhow, just in case they help, here they are.... :)

I think what I'd probably do is tell my friend about all my own failures.... I'd probably start with how I failed 3rd year physics the first time I did it (even though I now have a Ph.D. in physics).... A failure can often be just the beginning -- not the end.

And I've had many other failures too.... I think we probably all have, if we dig deep enough into our lives.... They can be hard to find because we often prefer to forget about them....

If you tell your friend about your failures, then perhaps your friend won't feel so alone, but will know that many other people have had these sorts of experiences too.... But failures are actually even more important than that.

In fact, I think you CAN'T be a success without having failures. If you have no failures, usually it means you don't try hard enough. Those who try to do things are the ones who have failures, and they are also those who have big successes too....

It's out of print, but you can still get it from some second hand bookstores.... I'm talking about Joe Sugarman's 1980 book Success Forces. The first part of the book is Joe Sugarman's story up until 1980. He had failure after failure after failure after failure....

As far as I know, Joe Sugarman still has a warehouse full of "Batman credit cards" -- one of his biggest business failures spanning over a decade of his own efforts.... If it's relevant, Joe Sugarman's story might help to cheer your friend up. And here's a useful tip....

I think it's important not to think of "failures" but instead of "learning experiences".... When you think about it, with every "failure" you learn something new. That's how I think of my own projects....

I start out with the thought, "If it succeeds, that's great, and if it fails, it will be a good learning experience".... then I go after it with gusto! I figure that whether I succeed, or whether I have a "learning experience," either way I win in the end.

In Success Forces Joe Sugarman talks about six "success forces". His first "success force" is "Always Be Honest." His second "success force" is "Cherish Your Failures." Let me share with you the beginning of the chapter called "Cherish Your Failures"....
One of the most powerful Success Forces is failure. Every time you fail you create a positive force for success.

To explain how this force works, let's examine a baby when he takes his first steps. What happens? He fails. So he tries and tries again. Finally, after many failures, the little toddler starts to walk. Wobbly at first, but he is walking.

The baby at first failed to walk, but each time he fell, he learned something. From all his failures, he was able to learn enough to balance himself and walk without falling.

I contend that this process works throughout one's entire life. We learn from our failures. Pile up enough failures and success is a sure bet. But most of us don't like failure. In fact, we avoid it at all costs, even if it means missing out on an opportunity.

I am firmly convinced that failure is such a powerful Success Force that it gives me the reassurance to try almost anything, for I know that even if I fail, it will create a force for success later.

[Success Forces by Joseph Sugarman, 1980, pp. 121-122.]

Joe Sugarman is of course the guy who started JS&A and sold all those groovy "space-age" gadgets in the 1970s and 1980s, and he's also well known for Blu-Blocker sunglasses....

I hope that helps, Paul.... I don't know much about the details of your friend's situation, so I'm not sure how appropriate this has been, but I hope it helps....

Cheers,

Dien

And Julie said at the Will Call at Dodger Stadium...."Tickets from Yogi Berra please?"
 

Hi Mike!

Wow! A Baseball enthusiast! I will forever have that mental picture, sound bite as I stood at that window asking for those tickets....people in the other line saying, "Yogi Berra, she's getting tickets from Yogi! Who is she? Wow!" etc etc etc and then walking into the stadium. Bianca was 7 at the time, not living with me then asking, "Do we have front row?" and me, wanting to kick her as I greeted my family friend who got us the tickets....(he co-wrote Yogi's biography and is a long time family friend. My baby brother's God father) "Just thank Uncle Tom for the tickets allowing us to be here at all!" as we were ushered to the front row, right behind the dug out.

We were an Astro's family for the day. Red Carpet treatment I will NEVER forget!

What you are speaking of, Mike, is using our emotional bank account to fuel us. Actors do this all the time. Instead of calling it "In the Zone" my acting teacher Micah calls it "In the moment". I call it "Being Completely Engaged."

Its also used in NLP and nearly anywhere Personal Development is practiced.

> It's really all about your emotional state.
> Then,
> he got me to do a "power move"
> where I instantly
> got back "into the zone".

Gotcha here, Mike. Its great if people can have sort of an internal Data base ready to go, so that when a situation occurs they can go into this place or that to bring them back into the zone. You know, like a power prescription. I think I could even call that a Passion Power Prescription....hey! We are onto something here! Thanks, Mike! :-)

> The thing is, when your emotional state is
> in a
> peak performance mode, results follow. Your
> brain automatically steers you to where you
> need
> to go.

****Another piece to this, in my experience, is using the Law of Attraction. You know, when things go right, it ALL seems to go right? When things go wrong....run for cover?

Somewhere in my studies it says to hold the intention for 17 seconds.....don't quote me there but its worth some experimenting. Hold an intention for 17 seconds...focus.....focus.....and see what happens. Its some fascinating stuff.

here is a link to attractionu.com from Michelle Lisenberry. She does some great work:

http://www.attractionu.com

> Paul, I've been been there and done that but
> the
> only person that can pull out of a mental
> funk
> is yourself.

****Used to drive me nuts when my Mom would say, "Only YOU can make yourself happy!" *Rolling eyes* why is Mom always soooo soooo sooooo.....right?!?!?!

Thanks for the great post, Mike! Lots of valuable stuff there!

With Purpose and Passion,

JULIE
PS-I felt a little Addams family-ish....I wanted to put in the subject, "YOU RANG?" but thought the Yogi Berra subject would get more attention....


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Sandy your posts are always powerfully practical.....
 

filled with wisdom, and amazingly inspiring!

YOUR friends are surely blessed to have YOU in their lives!

We certainly are blessed to have you here!

With Purpose and Passion,

JULIE

Re: A dear friend of mine....
 

Hi Paul!

What a very lucky friend to have someone like you concerned for his/her situation.

I watched "Touched by An Angel" tonight with Katherine, and its message is relevant to your friend.

The lead "angel", Monica, who is played by Roma Downey, falls prey to the Anger Virus that is spread like wild fires to humans. What starts as just a drop of water turns into a trickle which turns into a creek, stream, river, and soon is an unstoppable flood of anger that is inadvertantly passed from person to person causing torrential damage by the lives caught in its wake!

The anger of one man literally knocked Monica out.

Her partner in Angel-dom, Tess, who is played by Della Reese, whispers to Monica to observe what happened, since when Angels fall, there is always a reason and a lesson to be learned.

Which brings me to your friend's situation.

What is the lesson to be learned?

Are there extenuating circumstances causing a distortion of the facts?

What is one tiny step he/she can take towards getting up out of the whole into which there may seem to be no escape from at the current time?

What were the precursers to the downward spiraling and how could this be prevented from occuring again?

This is when those journaling tools Sandy suggested would come in handy, as well as some of the other techniques mentioned in the other's posts.

Lots of valuable information, Paul, hope your friend comes over to Dien's terrific resource here at SowPub and takes a look!

With Purpose and Passion,

JULIE




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Very funny Sandy and a great product idea.

How about an ebook or site devoted to what makes women tick. Of course no one could ever figure that out, but I’m sure if you kept the site humourous and user friendly say with a discussion group and a few products, I’m sure it would work quite well.

The Men are from Mars type books are best sellers and where there’s smoke.....there’s fire, smoke being a market and fire being money to be made.

I think the key would be to keep it light-hearted and a little different/quirky, maybe quirky enough to attract some free press.

Richard ( I see, not dead people, but products, all the time.) Vaughan