Men seem to keep score by how much -- the dollars that are involved in the situation, whether it is the size of a deal or the size of the stock option or whatever might be the context of the situation. It is almost an irrelevant standard for many women that I know, which is not to say you are oblivious to money, certainly. But once the dollars are taken care of, once the basics are under control, what emerges as the most important thing out of the situation is the relationship context. Either creating or preserving or strengthening the relationship-- that’s what makes it a successful deal.

Polly Moore


In the stoneage, men hunted. To attract a mate (female) they had to have proof of their ability to provide - food, shelter, etc.

In modern times this has turned into money. Money is the proof of a male's ability to provide for a mate.

In the stoneage, women wanted to be sure their mate could provide for them and the resultant offspring. Hence the quote "once the money is taken care of and the basics are under control" (meaning, once I, the female, am secure).

Both of these elements worked together in harmony to make sure only skilled hunters (strong, intelligent, etc.) would have offspring and pass their skills on and keep the species going strong.

Michael Ross.