> It's a good example of the "scarcity
> principle". That is, the idea that when
> something is "scarce", suddenly we
> value it. We see it as being valuable, and
> it makes us want it even more!

No quite so. There's plenty of scarce things that aren't valuable - certain ancient pottery from the middle east, for example. Thousands and thousands of years old and you can't hardly give it away.

Why?

Because no-one wants it.

And THAT is the trick with scarcity... other people wanting it.

> In brief, it explains how a new Mormon
> Temple was being constructed in his city.
> There's an inner part of the Mormon Temple
> that non-Mormons can never see.... There was
> an exception, though, which was a few days
> after a new Temple is constructed.

> Reading about this in the paper made him
> want to see it! It was purely due to the
> scarcity principle - if he didn't see it
> now, he may never again get the chance! Even
> though he had no questions about the Mormon
> religion he wanted answered, and had no
> interest in Mormon Temples before....

It wasn't just the scarcity of it... it was also the fact other people get to see it.

Somehow, I don't think he would want to see the inside of my home just because only a few people have seen it.

> People also use "scarcity" in
> relationships....

> Perhaps you've heard of playing "hard
> to get"? That's nothing but
> scarcity.... Because someone is "hard
> to get" - that is, "scarce" -
> it makes someone want him/her even more.

> In contrast, when someone seems
> "easy" - suddenly his or her
> desirability drops. If she's TOO
> "available" - suddenly, she
> doesn't seem as attractive.

> For some people, using the scarcity
> principle is VERY important when it comes to
> successful courting. Some people seem very
> good at acting "interested" yet
> still "unavailable" - which will
> drive some others crazy with desire.

Okay... here's some "Courting/Relationships 101"...

Guys are gutless wonders. Scared of women.

Women are attracted to a guy who has a stamp of approval. And a stamp of approval is... another woman is going out with him.

Women are not attracted to a man who is not sought by other women in any way, shape or form.

Women are not attracted to desperate men. And the more he tries to get with a woman who is not interested, the less she wants him. And thinks he's making a fool of himself.

A woman playing "hard to get" is partly trying to see how true your intentions are and partly trying to see how "available" you are. The more available you are, the less she will want you and give you "not interested" signals. And the more you, as a guy, will think she is REALLY playing hard to get.

"Hard to get" signals are "I'm not interested" signals which a guy is too stupid to understand.

If a woman is interested in you, you will know by her actions.

If you aren't together, she is NOT interested. Period. And any "interest" shown will be at times when she is not with someone else. And using you as her "entertainment," playing you for a sucker.

A woman does not waste her time with a guy who is not interested in her. In other words... no "hard to get" ploy works. She just moves on.

When a couple go to a function (or any outing) and another woman begins flirting with the guy (after all, he has a stamp of approval), the guy's woman can tell what's going on but the guy is too dumb to see it.

Michael Ross