I've been inviting women to the board...and
some men(smile)...
but on a serious note....
Ivillage.com has some really good discussion
boards..and many men participate and are welcome
as well...They're rated tops in their boards
which relate to "writing" non-fiction and
fiction...you might want to visit the boards..

Also, bizymom.com has great boards as well..
and interesting chat room topics which deal
with business.

In fact when I'm out on the web and I see
a great website..I email the owner and encourage
them to come by this board, especially if
there interest resonates with yours...
There is a way to contact people without spamming
but it takes a "genuine" one on one approach.
I always give them something instead of just
asking them to do something for me...

In time I hope some of them will show up and
post...and let you know Sandy sent them..I've
met many people on line by just dropping into
their website(or their home) and sending them
a nice casual email...I think it works for me
because I'm not trying to "sell" anything..
Just sharing resources with them...