Michael - thanks for your response; (I've been thinking about what you say and have indeed been to your web site on more than one occasion. It turns out I have previously downloaded the MIS report - and since I had a look this evening, I remember clicking the download link on your web page.)

Here are three headers from emails I received this evening

Margaret You can order Anti-depressants, weight loss meds,and pain relief meds online with NO PRESCRIPTIONN xcmlrq?pius.wfs:i?sdrduq.pbwjnsk? 5/30/2003

Margaret Viagraa, Soma, Fioricet, Prescribed Online for Free, Shipped Overnight ojvey:fw;omopiwg:cnwim;hwre?ycyy?es:cps. 5/30/2003

Hello Margaret, Rare Movie Site - Rare & Unique High Quality Hardcore Movies!!!

These were all addressed to [email protected] - and my name is indeed Margaret. However, I find it spooky and very offensive to be correctly mentioned by name in these email subjects; that's an absolute automatic delete for me. So, while I get the general ethos of personalising emails, as a woman it gives me a great sense of insecurity to be correctly addressed like this. I feel I'm being stalked.

I took a quick look at the other emails in my inbox this evening, and rather than delete everything out of hand, took the time to select a couple I felt didn't intrude into my "personal space" but were from total strangers. I can honestly say that I felt far more comfortable opening the one whose title is "Advertising Resources", which doesn't address me by name. However, the person who wrote it had been to one of my web sites and was requesting a link exchange. I guess that person might be glad this discussion provoked me into looking at the email at all, 'coz now I'm going to go and check out the link to the other website.

Like I said previously, I'm not in the market to mass mail millions of people. If I choose to contact anyone, it's with a genuine invitation and the email contact HAS been obtained directly from his/her website. In total, I probably have approached less than 25 individuals in this way; and a gratifying number of them have been able to help me in some way or another.

Thanks Michael

Margaret