You can't know the depths from the shallow end of the pool. You're only looking at one aspect of the human critter, being sex.

Set aside all the minor differences between the genders, and actually go to the 'depths', you'll find that men and women both want exactly the same things.

They want to be accepted, and they want to be needed.

Charismatics need the adoring crowds to feel accepted and needed.

The crowds need to feel accepted and needed by their leader.

Both sides of that combination get tons of what they want.

It's the same on the individual level. That's why you will see a fat ugly guy with a great looking lady, or the other way around. People will whisper "What can he/she possibly see in him/her?". The answer is that each one of them is supplying the other's need to be needed and accepted.