Men view overweight women the same way women view unemployed men.

... and for the same reason -- they cannot provide what we are after.

But neither side understands where the other side is 'coming from.' That's why John Gray's Mars/Venus books were so popular. They shed some lights on the mysteries of the 'battle of the sexes.'

A woman is perfectly capable of setting up a male friend on a blind date with a friend of hers -- while blissfully ignoring that the friend is overweight (she ignores that because -- after all -- it can't make that much difference, can it?)

It's not until after the guy meets the blind date that he realizes the woman who set it all up was obviously UNAWARE of the importance of LOOKS to men.

Similarly, a guy could set up a blind date for a woman friend of his, and ignore the fact that the man he's recommending is OUT OF WORK (he ignores that because -- after all -- it can't make that much difference, can it?).

See? Both sides completely UNAWARE of how the mind of the other side works!! Total ignorance.

The radio shock jock Tom Leykis has a saying something like this...

"A woman finds the richest man (what M. Ros is calling a man who can 'provide') her charms can attract -- and a man finds the best looking woman he can afford."

Very cynical to be sure -- but, at its root there's a lot of truth in it.

-- TW