Here are some secrets to increasing your verbal commands.
SURPRISE. Think Glenn Osborn here, he is the master of the surprise, which totally disables the RAS, and he implants the good will he builds off of and uses.
SILENCE. Is golden. "You say it best, when you say nothing at all," sings Alison Krauss. Better to let them think you are a silent idiot than to open your mouth and prove them right. Knowing when to be quiet is one of the most powerful of verbal command techniques.
YES OR NO QUESTIONS. Old timey salesmen were taught to get a small yes, and build up a series of yes, yes, yes all the way to the sale. It gives you great control of a conversation.
INTENSE LISTENING. Lean in, listen carefully, repeat back key ideas, and you can get a lot of people to do as you ask. This is how you lead by following along.
There are some more techniques, and I'll post them up later...but each technique or method has a lot of depth to it. The Socratic Method, used skillfully, and with Total Conscious Awareness is the heart of Powerful Verbal Communication.
Gordon
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Originally Posted by GordonJ
The whole idea behind PUA (Pick Up Artists) is the use of word/touch manipulation and even some stage hypnosis all to get a girl to say yes...and it is mainly bought by those guys who need the help. The incels and hopeless guys who think they deserve to get what they want.
They don't.
And so the context of verbal communication; the where and when...are just as important. In a business setting, when wheeling and dealing, one wrong word can screw the pooch on things.
With ONE sided talk, as we see on YouTube, webinar replays, and as a tool for mass communication...there still are some ways to evoke an emotional reaction, depending, of course, on the audience. See any Trump Rally to witness these knee jerk reactions. Powerful are the believers.
So, the smart thing would be to seed the audience with your own peeps, such as they did on four camera TV shows, where you can hear the 'pros' on the laugh track.
But in the real world, whether it is a business deal, or a child/parent, or teacher, or personal relationship, the person who knows how to control and is aware of what they utter, has tremendous power in that setting...and the good news is, it can be learned.
In my escalator of biz op, it starts with TALK, and ends with TALK to the masses. In my golf biz, I did one to one talking, then groups, then on mass media, then rinsed and repeated for the next thing.
Knowing how to expedite or speed up the escalator can shave off years of trial and error, and get one to their goal much faster...depending on whether they master the art of personalized dialogue.
Gordon
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