>

> If you HATE to fail, and you don't allow
> yourself any excuses , then you work like
> crazy so you DON'T fail....

It's called compensation. There are many people
who "appear" to be successful but they compensate
for feelings of inadequacy by working hard and
making money, going to school etc.
Just because you make a lot of money doesn't
mean you don't have a fear of success or failure.

> P.P.S. Another example, from my own life....
> When I was growing up, I got in trouble if I
> didn't bring home good grades.

Oh my....why did you have to go there? ;-)
Same thing happened to me...had to bring in
all "A's" and now as an adult I have this
trauma: "the need to please"...it is diminishing
however because I realized you can never please
anyone but yourself.

In fact this "over compensation" is the complicating factor in determining my goals
right now. Sometimes I set goals and later
find they aren't really my goals but "goals
my parents want me to have"(substitutes for
bringing home the "a's")

Well, my
> parents would show how disappointed (and
> sometimes even angry) they were with every
> bad grade,

Severe punishments or "whippings" anyone....
now it would be considered abuse... ;-)

Oh...dien why did you have to go there? ;-)