Hi Nan,

> And Sandy, you are not alone!!! In fact, I
> would venture to say that a lack of
> self-confidence is experienced by many of
> the people that frequent this board.

> The difference in them and you is they don't
> don't want to admit it. They would rather
> not show "that" side of
> themselves. So they wear a mask that makes
> them look on top of things, in control,
> successful, sought-after, etc., etc.

> Wearing masks is a very common defense to
> hide our insecurities and those
> "bad" feelings about ourselves.
> But the first step towards healing is
> admitting there is a problem.

Nan, I believe you're right... In fact, to be honest, I do this (generally with people I don't know too well).... But something is making me open out -- I feel I can admit all this stuff.... :)

I think (hope) the "no insults or personal attacks" policy helps with this.... If anyone insults or personally attacks anyone here, I'll delete the message instantly.... We want this to be an open and friendly place with a "positive vibe", where people can speak freely and candidly.... :)

Thank you for sharing, Nan.... I love your insights, they are VERY true.... Yours and Amber's and Sandy's posts have really blown me away! :)

- Dien