> For every kid who was "forced" to
> getting good grades, and who today holds
> that against their parents, you will find
> another person who is

> GRATEFUL

> for having been pushed. For having their
> parents care enough to force them to learn
> to excel.

> So, again, the trauma is a question of
> perspective, one of filtering...and that is
> clearly shown on SQ1...

I thought I'd comment on this, since this fits me pretty well....

My parents pushed me to excel, but I think where they may have been different from some other parents was that they gave me complete choice regarding what I would do.... So they didn't generally force me to do any particular thing or to be any particular thing.... Their main rule was, whatever I chose to do, I should try to do the absolute best I could do at it....

So, when it came to school for example, they let me pick whatever subjects I wanted to. And it was the same at university.... They said they just wanted me to be happy doing whatever I wanted to do....

But whatever it was I chose, they encouraged me to FOCUS and do the best I could do....

And I'm actually grateful for that....

- Dien