Richard Dennis nailed in his post. Listen is the key to relationships of any kind.

I have a friend, analytic sort of guy, who was very backwards socially. He felt that nobody was interested in what he had to say...he was right about that. Anyway, he determined to become an interesting person.

He did it by reading and gathering information on everything, so he could expound at length on any subject...and he does.

Thing is, nobody is interested in what he knows and he comes off as an overbearing bore. Of course nobody, including me, will tell him that. In fact there is no way to tell him anything because he knows everything already.

He went about it all wrong. The truth is, to be the most interesting person in the room, you should never say anything beyond "Oh really, what happened then?", or "How did you feel about that?", or "How many kittens did she have?". And so forth.

When you do that, you can keep someone talking for hours. When it's over, you'll know all about them, they won't know squat about you, but...they will think you are the most fascinating conversationalist they've ever met.

Nobody cares about you. Nobody. So, when someone comes along that seems to care about you, you'll think they're the most wonderful person alive. Simple stuff. Defies logic.

May be total BS.