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Originally Posted by Dien Rice
Here's a controversial question...
Should you hang out with "losers"?
Or is it better to only hang out with "winners"?
What do you think?
- Dien
P.S. I know some people will hate this question... It can make people uncomfortable...
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This time of the year, we are often "forced" (voluntarily) to hang out with family and some old friends. Some have toxic Thanksgivings, some have unhappy Haunukkahs and cringe worthy Christmases, let alone drunk uncle New Year's Eves.
The rest of the year we get to hang with whomever we want for the most part, unless we have chosen to surrender those choices by asking to be picked for a job. Then we surrender ourselves with whomever else is around us.
I'm not sure what hang out means, is it physical presence, in which instance I have minimal contact at this point. If it is time on the phone, or online or on the Internet sites or groups, then I would say we all tend to hang out with like minded people.
As you know, I'm not big on Winners and Losers. If Trump is considered to be a big winner, as he himself thinks and only HE among the Billionaires achieved POTUS, where does that put Mother Teresa on the spectrum.
I know a lot of social workers, and dedicated people to helping others who are Winners. So, some sort of a yardstick, a measuring device would be helpful.
When we start to think in terms of Winners and Losers, then it begins a cascading of comparison.
For me, a Winner is doing what she wants to do, on her terms, and being mostly in control of her time and days.
Losers are people who want something else and continue to go in circles year after year digging ruts into early graves.
So, I'll let my shirt hang out, I'll let the dogs out to hang, I'll hang my laundry on the line, but almost all of that only within me, myself and I. Winner? Or Loser?
GordonJ