Seeds of Wisdom Forum

Lesson 4 Relationships...

Posted By: Gordon Alexander
Date: Wednesday, 20 September 2000, at 4:27 p.m.

> Here is the Relationship Pictogrigm:

OH Boy. Did I mention each of the Paths is color coded...

The Financial is Gold/Brown.

The Physical is Green.

The Relationship Path is RED. Ain't it though.

The fire of emotion, the heat of passion, the crimson of love.

Oh, remind to post my poem someday called Quilt.

Those of you that have Remote Hypnosis are going to recoginize some of this. After all influencing deals with other people, otherwise I'd have to call it Remote Self-Hypnosis.

You have 5 kinds of relationships, feel free to make it as many as you want.

There are strangers...RIGHT...you DON'T have a relationship with these people. Yet.

There are acquaintences, you recognize them, have limited knowledge of them, most of your Internet "friends" are really these.

YOu have FRIENDS. From your childhood. From your environments, and from your geographies.

You have FAMILY...and they sit right on top of your head...some of you know a lot about that pressure don't you?

Yep, there they are, they love you, they want what's best for you and often make your life a living hell, right?

Family...

Then there are the INTIMATE relationships, these can be family as in spouse/significant other...or these can be close friends.

The below the belt reference is to INTIMACY...which can be expresse with sex or with communication/disclosure.

OK.

You see the 4 Basic Human Pre-Occupations, these are things that are always on our mind, most of the time at the subconscious level.

NOTE the Gender Specific pre-occupations. They are in order.

And of course they are NOT universal, but most hold true for the masses. You may be the oddball. OK?

SEX. It is on a boy's mind a lot, even those 50 year old boys. "Did you see the _____ on that babe?" says one 14 year old to the other, and it begins.

RECREATION. "OH, I'll be right back, there's a baseball game on."

CAMARADERIE. "Hey Hon, me and the boys are going fishing next month."

SOCIAL CONTRIBUTION. "I helped build the new wing down at the church, yep, that was me. Use MY power tools, harrr harrr."

INTIMACY. "What do you WANT to talk about now?" he mutters after his exhausting 10 minute sexual effort. HA!

And FROM the Ladies:

INTIMACY. Note it is at the top and just the opposite of most men's preoccupations. This is why there is a lot of trouble between the sexes.

Many women "settle" for a physical substitute for intimacy (sex)...Female intimacy is emotional disclosure.

SENSE OF WORTH. This is second to intimacy and often tied into number one. Women, MORE THAN MEN, need to have a feeling of self worth...men have a tendency to CREATE IT.

COMPANIONSHIP...non sexual contact to do/share with. Shopping might fit the bill, or dancing, or a movie. It is "quality time" with "intimacy" included.

PHYSICAL CONTACT. This manifest in group activity, volunteering, joining clubs, having people to HUG and touch in a non sexual/non intimat way. Most guys don't get this.

Guys, if you want to be a "lady killer" learn to give good (sincere) HUGS. Without an erection.

And then there is GENEOLOGY.

This is why women get all fussy about that flab hanging under their arms, GRANDMA's flaps in the wind for cry in the buckets already.

So women are more AWARE of what they could become through Genetic traits.

Guys could be exactly like their dads and will DENY it to kingdom come.

You see at the top of the PICTOGRIGM the Guidelines.

This just about sums up the whole shebang of relationships.

Like attracts like. do unto others FIRST to evoke the innate reciprocal response"...

Dien, are you getting more smiles nowadays?

The keys to communication is to ASK...listen...

focus on the preoccupations...

Speak the truth...

and GIVE of yourself.

OK.

See, we all live in our own little world. I sometimes call it an IGLOO. Because it gets cold in there.

In can be lonely. You can be swimming in a sea of people and be drowning of lonliness.

Other people is what you will find life is really all about.

Good on the guru who climbs the mountain and espouses wisdom...hoop de doo.

Better is the person who lives among the people and endures and enjoys the roller coaster ride of relationships.

Best is the person who embraces humanity with understanding and knowledge and gives fully of themselves without expecting a return.

WOW, do that last one, you've got it mastered.

Now then, are there any questions.

On your PERSONAL PICTOGRIGM you should have your parents, your siblings, your grandparents....where you are at TODAY...financially, physically, and now with relationships.

Add a few more stick figures...friends...both past and present...add extened family like aunts and uncles cousins if they play a significant role in your life...

Your PICTOGRIGM is going to be full before it is all over...but don't fret, you can always tape another piece of paper on it...

Add some acquaintences but not too close to the lifeline...in your FUTURE...put a couple of strangers...

Now remember, we are laying groundwork the really good stuff comes when we APPLY these pictogrigms to our FUTURE LIFE.

This is to help you SEE in a literal way, where you have been and how much baggage you have actually brought to this point.

We'll be getting rid of some of that for you too.

I'm accelerating this SQ1 because my software came in for a big project. Dien says he will post these somewhere for your continuous study, he is a good man.

I'm going to post the last two pictogrigms of the 5 paths now, and tomorrow, I put up the rest of them...

Thanks for tuning in.

Gordon Alexander