Instantaneous personal change

I've reached the point in my life where I need to make some personal changes fast. I've experienced instantaneous change in the past, but I don't understand why.

When I was a kid in junior high school we played
football during P.E. class. I didn't really participate. I just went through the motions and dreaded the experience every day. Then one day I was in the way and the ball hit me and I caught it for an interception. Some kid came by and said "see, that wasn't so hard was it?". Well I instantly became a one of the better players and looked forward to P.E. from that time on.

The second example is dental phobia. I dreaded the dentist and had molars rotten to the gum line but wouldn't go near a dentist. Then one of the molars abscessed and the pain was so extreme that fear or not I had to see a dentist. This resulted in a sloppy extraction where the tooth had to be cut into four pieces and each piece removed separately. From that point on I have had no fear of the dentist at all. I can sit in the waiting room for a root canal and be as calm as if I were in a waiting room having my cars oil changed.

My third example involves my attempt at selling real estate. I was a classic non-salesman trying to make a living selling. I didn't like closing at all. I thought that if I was knowledgeable about real estate people would buy from me which isn't true. You have to aggressively close to sell real estate. One day I made a sale and was on top of the world. But this didn't result in a lasting change. I went back to my old ways and soon had to find another way to make a living.

The point of this post is why did the first two examples result in instantaneous change but the last one did not? Somewhere in these three stories is the secret to personal change which is virtually instantaneous. Wouldn't it be nice to wake up tomorrow and and know that you could vanquish fear and become whatever you wanted to be and do so that very day? I know it's possible because I did it twice but I don't understand why. Any comments or ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

G Frank

....we all basically want to feel good.

In the first example you gave, you wanted to be good at catching the ball, but told yourself you didn't like it to justify the fact that you felt you weren't good at it.

Once you saw that you could actually do it, then it was truly pleasurable.

With the dental example, because of the extreme pain, almost any reasonable solution would have left you with a feeling of gratitude towards the solution because, as it eased your suffering.

Catching the ball and going to the dentist are now associated with pleasure and absolute relief.

As for the real estate gig, deep down you never wanted to do it and even though you received pleasure from your sale, it wasn't enough to overcome the truth....you don't like selling.

This also relates back to product development and marketing. You should always try to be true to yourself and never get involved with anything that has income producing potential, unless you enjoy it.

Don't write an ebook if you hate writing.
Don't get into MLM if you hate personalised face to face selling.
Don't start a lawn mowing business if you hate mowing the lawn.

Makes sense right? But so many people get involved with ways to make money that they know they'll hate, yet they do it because they think, or have been told they'll make money.

You can make money from practically any interest, so it makes sense to do something you like. If it doesn't work at the very least, you would have had fun.

The richest, happiest most positive people on earth generally experience the same problems we all do, but it's how they handle the problems that separates them.

Johnny (Siemend's long lost brother) Bravo

"That's right Momma"

so what do you do if you are a distributor for
a diet product that you think is the greatest
thing since eve ate the apple, you love helping
people lose weight...but you hate to sell people
on the diet...rather you hate prospecting...

So you love everything about what you're doing except the actual finding of customers?

"Where there's a will there's a way Momma"

Find someone else to do the part you hate, free's you up to concentrate on the rest, so you're the best at the rest.

Pay this person or JV with them for a cut.

I run a business, I love everything about it, but I hate doing the books. I pay someone to take the pain away.

When you're trying to make money from your own efforts, you have to be the developer, marketer, bookeeper, bill payer etc, Not everyone can love all that, most just like the idea of when the money rolls in, but it's all part of the process that results in the income part, especialy the prospecting part.

So do the things you enjoy, but if there's a part that's vital to the success of the project, you'll have to learn to like it, or get someone else who does.

Interestingly the marketing of anything is often the most important part. Microsoft spend 10x the developing budget of a product on marketing.

And what about that black fizzy water that is full of sugar and dehydrates you? The #1 seller in supermarkets all over the world......Coke.

Ever been to an Amway distributor seminar? Man, what a mind job! Talk about brainwashing, but that's all marketing is, a form of brainwashing, inducing a person to change one's perception.

Some products need more brainwashing than others.

Sometimes the hatred of prospecting or marketing is actually the hatred of the product. You see the real potential to make money, so you trick yourself into falling in love with the product, regardless of what it is, but won't find a way past one of the most important parts, because you know deep down inside (there it is again) that your heart's not in it.

That may not be you, but it does happen.

I'll wind up with something Momma once said...

"If you love the product enough, you'll find a way to sell it AND your love for the product will come ascross in your sales piece, presentation whatever"

Thank ya Momma;>)

PS Johnny's droned on for long enough, so I won't even get started about finding the market first rather than the product, hey you knew that already right?? Thank ya Johnny.

Do the monkey with me.........

thanx...i very seldom print stuff out, but that
was a keeper...

hire people...what a concept...it just goes to show, sometimes we get way to close to the problem
to see the obvious solution...

... can be found in my Free Report, "Knowledge Is Power - or, is it?"

Jim


Knowledge is Power - or, is it?