Another spin on why we don't succeed...

Chris -

I can empathize with you regarding your dad's backsliding after open heart surgery. My mom has done the same thing - not with cigarettes, but with sweets and other poor eating habits after a life threatening five way bypass and stroke. But, I figure at age 84 her structure is probably cast in dynamite-proof cement, so I let her do her thing and am supportive.

Re your question about changing other than bad habits, I think here's where Robert Fritz's structural process dovetails with Gordon's SQ1 system (there have been several references to it on SOWPUB below over the past 18 months).

In brief, SQ1 has you determine what you want and where you are by drawing "pictogrigms in several areas of your life (career, financial, health, relationships etc.) and then provides a Pyramid of Achievement and other structural maps and processes to help you achieve what you want within each area as well as in your life as a whole. Very powerful. And it starts with you knowing what you want - the creative goal on which to apply dynamic structural tension.

(Gordon - my apologies for this highly abbreviated synopsis of your process - this is the "elevator speech" description:-))

If we apply Fritz's structural tension process to the PoA, we can improve our processes to create and achieve what we want to achieve our objectives.

Also, the 10 Days to Success program that Gordon and Rick Smith offer also fits in, providing the impetus for organized and focused actions in a manageable period of time.

As a practical application, I'm going to work on small, progressive steps to test and refine the processes for me. I'm going to structure processes for finally decluttering my office, clearing the vines from my side yard, selling surplus stuff on eBay, and planning my next seminar series. And the conceptual obstacles I'll be overcoming include procrastination, dislike of yardwork, and the normal myriad distractions of life in general.

Hopefully, each successful attainment of an objective at the small level will reinforce my resolve to continue to refine and upgrade my processes to achieve greater and greater heights. (I don't know about a billionaire, but a millionaire would be nice:-))

I'll stop here and post more later after I've done more work and achieved something(as you have started as well). With any luck, Gordon's upcoming book will present his SQ1 method in detail so we can all benefit from both systems.

If nothing else, this thread and those below on Fritz and SQ1 have motivated me to apply these methodologies this spring to get off my duff.

Regards,

Bob

> Maybe I'm not digging deep enough, but I've
> never had thoughts that I don't deserve
> success or that I'm incapable of success, or
> any of the other conceptual complexes that
> Mr. Fritz speaks about. For me, I'm able to
> connect everything that's keeping me from
> where I want to be to a bad habit or
> self-defeating level of comfort that I'm
> used to. Thoughts?

Chris,

Maybe it's not (like you suggest), the concepts you hold at all but you don't have the right structure to propel you to success? Maybe there just isn't enough tension there? On the other hand (at least superficially) your long-term success structure is much weaker than the structure you have in place that maintains your current (and comfortable) lifestyle? Instead of trying to make your long-term success structure stronger, maybe you should make your 'comfortable, lifestyle structure' weaker?

Take care,

Mike W.