My 17 Year Old Daughter's Car Broke Down

Woody,

I don't think I "read more into it" I think your situation is quite obvious.

No way of saying it without sounding like a jerk so I'll just go ahead and be the jerk....

If you had the money to fix the car, you would have never made that offer.

Nothing wrong with not having the cash - we've all been there.

But you made it sound like this was about helping your daughter and not about helping you. You need to get the car fixed, not her.

Also, you mentioned that $20 was selling your book "at a loss" ?!?!?! Huh?

It's an ebook - ANY money you get for it is pure profit.

What you actually ended up doing here was to devalue it by a substantial amount.

Do you honestly think that anyone who reads your post will ever consider buying it for $200 now? Or even the $50 that you had it at last week?

I offered to review it for you a couple of weeks ago when you were asking for reviews and I think you know that I had no intention of ever using it. My offer was to try to help you out and nothing other than that.

I tried to explain that to you but you insisted that if I wanted to review it for you that I should pay the $50 for it. WTF?

I was offering you a couple hours of my time (that doesn't come cheap BTW) for nothing in return and you thought I should pay you for the privledge?

It became real obvious to me at that point that it wasn't the review you were after, it was the $50

Same thing this time around.

I think you need a lesson in "values", both monitarely and personal.

Jim

Greetings James,

You missed the mark again.

My daughter, like most teenagers, expect their parents to hand over the dough. NOT ME! I do not believe you should give your children money. If you want it you must put forth some effort to earn it. Period!

For years I've been preaching to my children that when you have a financial situation staring you the face there are ways to overcome them by using the Internet. They never believed until today.

This situation was perfect for her to see how the Internet helped her generate money quickly to help her out of a bind. Ironically, she is majoring in business management.

For those of you that stepped up, your donation did more than help pay, it taught my daughter a valuable lesson. Now she is a believer in Internet commerce.

From the bottom of my heart I commend you for your generousity. If you haven't received your copy of my home study course keep watching your emails.

Woody Quiñones

[Ankesh]

Originally Posted by ImpactYourArea.com

My daughter, like most teenagers, expect their parents to hand over the dough. NOT ME! I do not believe you should give your children money. If you want it you must put forth some effort to earn it. Period!

Thanks for adding "Period!" at the end of your paragraph. Unfortunately - you went against your beliefs and gave money to your daughter when she did no work.

As Jason posted - it would have been a better idea if you would have given Her a copy of your home study course and guide her make money using that idea.

You could have even documented the idea and what your daughter does and used it as a case study to sell more copies of your course in the future.

There are no downsides with that idea and a valuable lesson for your daughter.

Instead, by discounting - you potentially made a few people who paid more for your product angry / dis-satisfied and got people questioning your intent on 2 business forums that you frequent. Very relevant downsides imo.

He didn't miss the mark at all. You say that you don't believe that you should give your children money, but that's exactly what you did. I don't know how you wrote that sentence with a straight face. She put no effort in to earn it, so there was no "lesson learned".

Why not give her your course and really have her put the effort in to earn it?

Originally Posted by ImpactYourArea.com

Greetings James,

You missed the mark again.

My daughter, like most teenagers, expect their parents to hand over the dough. NOT ME! I do not believe you should give your children money. If you want it you must put forth some effort to earn it. Period!

For years I've been preaching to my children that when you have a financial situation staring you the face there are ways to overcome them by using the Internet. They never believed until today.

This situation was perfect for her to see how the Internet helped her generate money quickly to help her out of a bind. Ironically, she is majoring in business management.

For those of you that stepped up, your donation did more than help pay, it taught my daughter a valuable lesson. Now she is a believer in Internet commerce.

From the bottom of my heart I commend you for your generousity. If you haven't received your copy of my home study course keep watching your emails.

Woody Quiñones

Greetings Bill and Ankesh,

Both of you have suggested this:

Why not give her your course and really have her put the effort in to earn it?

We did discuss this and other options. But she carries a full class load and works part time and has no more hours in the day to do anything else. So she's between a rock and a hard place.

So do I become the hard nosed father that says, "Well you're going to have to figure this out on your own" or do I use the opportunity to show her how to sell products on the Internet to help out in time of need? I choose the latter.

Now I realize many think and have voiced that she has not learned a lesson. On the contrary, she now sees the Internet as a place to buy and sell her stuff. Prior to this she wouldn't even consider the Internet as an option.

I'm glad that I had something that I could use right away to help her out. Which brings me to another point that most of you missed out on. I've received some very nice emails from other parents who have been in the same situation with their children.

Most commented how they never considered using their own products to help out anyone who truly needs assistance.

Instead, by discounting - you potentially made a few people who paid more for your product angry / dis-satisfied and got people questioning your intent on 2 business forums that you frequent.

Now let's address this belief. New products come on the market every day at a set price. But like millions upon millions upon millions of products of the past they never stay at the opening price.

Very few actually go up in price due to their popularity or rareity, but the majority go down in price over time and eventually disappear off the market. The public domain is filled with writings that were at one time sold for a profit, but now are home to anyone for free.

The average consumer knows this about products and waits until a product's price comes down before they consider buying it. If you don't believe me ask your mothers, fathers and grandparents. I know of two individuals that wanted my course last year but did not buy. Both of them donated yesterday.

All of you know this, so don't let your greed glands kling to the notion that a product must stay at the same price forever. It's not realistic.

Also if this situation hadn't happened I would have never considered using my course to help anyone in a financial bind, let alone my daughter. The lesson I learned is sell your products for a profit, but more importantly don't let my zeal to make a profit cloud my judgement when someone needs help.

I do challenge everyone of you reading this, that when someone you know needs financial assistance show them how to buy and sell over the Internet. Even if it means you use your own product to teach them.

Woody Quiñones
ImpactYourArea.com
PS. We are still accepting donations. Just go to Paypal and send the $20 to [email protected] and mark it as "Donation For Car Repair". Later in the day my home study course will be emailed to you in a pdf. formatted file.