Is there a "fear" that's holding you back? What should you do about it?

Phil,

Thanks for quoting.

Denis Waitley
Procrastination is the fear of success. People procrastinate because they are afraid of the success that they know will result if they move ahead now. Because success is heavy, carries a responsibility with it, it is much easier to procrastinate and live on the 'someday I'll' philosophy..

Denis is just plain old wrong.

You see, Procrastination is, in fact, part of our make up. Part of our built in survival mechanism. It is NOT - repeat NOT - due to the fictional "Fear of Success" malarkey. (People only procrastinate on Some things. There are Plenty of things they do that require "Success" at which people do not Procrastinate... so it's not "Fear of Success" at all.)

And those who've read The Success Report know that it isn't "Fear" (of whatever) which holds someone back. Even if you Think it is.

Take Dien, for example (I am using you Dien as you had already expressed something relevant and for convenience).

Dien said...

I have a "fear" of "offending" people... I hate the idea that I might "offend" others.

And yet Dien Does offend people in Certain Ways. Such as making forum changes despite requests otherwise - removing the email address from the old forum for example, and calling it a "test" to Quiet those who wanted it to stay.

I won't get into the why's and wherefores of Selective Offending, but thought it appropriate to draw attention that... things aren't as you Think they are or as they at first Appear. And that's just the way of things.

Michael Ross

[Dien Rice]

Originally Posted by MichaelRoss

And yet Dien Does offend people in Certain Ways. Such as making forum changes despite requests otherwise - removing the email address from the old forum for example, and calling it a "test" to Quiet those who wanted it to stay.

Hi Michael,

It was a test - in that I was seeing the reaction, and if a lot of people didn't like it, I would have reverted it back to the "old" way. The impression I got was that a lot of people liked it the new way (with "cloaked" email addresses - where you could still email someone through the forum, but you couldn't actually find out their email address unless they emailed you back). That's because - at least at that time - people feared getting email spam. The "cloaked email" system stopped "robot spam email harvesters" from gathering email addresses from the forum, to send their spammy emails to...

However, you do raise a good point, which is - unless you're sitting back and doing nothing - you can't always please everyone. Sometimes, you do have to make a choice, and no matter which choice you make, not everybody will be happy with it... People are diverse!

Thanks, though, for your thoughts.

Cheers,

Dien

Dien,

Thanks for jumping back into the fray.

Anything - anything - which removes responsibility from a person is a bad thing.

If people don't want to get spam THEY can choose not to leave their email address. Anything else - and I'm not talking about just cloaked emails but anything - is Giving Up your own Power to the Mindless Masses and that is also a bad thing.

For you end up with No Integrity.

Look at Peter Garret. A Big Political Party hater who saw Nothing Good out of Any of the Majors. But one party dangles the carrot and he hops on board and now Touts the Major Party Line. No Integrity.

All I am saying with my Offend thing is... realize that no matter which way you go you Will Offend. So using the Offend thing as an Excuse of why you do or do not something, is inaccurate and doesn't wash. There's something else underlying it... but it's not about Offending because we do that whether we like it or not. And we do that as we please or see fit to. And we All do it.

So your mission is to thus delve into the Underlying Reason.

Michael Ross