Getting what you want....

Hi Julie!

Thanks for your illuminating answers!

Thank you for sharing some of your wisdom, I treasure it highly.... :)

> I will do my very best to explain this some
> more.

> Like Secretan, I believe we can create our
> most magnificent lives. In creating our
> lives, creating our cirumstances, this is
> where we can truly create our own bliss. Be
> an active builder of our own PERSONALIZED
> bliss instead of taking a prepackaged idea
> of bliss from someone else and sort of
> claiming it as our own.

Julie, that's a powerful idea! Actually.... it's funny... I've recently been reading about P. T. Barnum, who was a master promoter of the 19th century.... While something he says isn't identical, it seems related -- it's about finding your true "calling"....

Let me see if I can find the quote.... (rummage rummage).... Ah here it is. :)

Let me turn the keyboard over the the master promoter, P. T. Barnum....

The safest plan, and the one most sure of success for the young man starting in life, is to select the vocation which is most congenial to his tastes. Parents and guardians are often quite too negligent in regard to this. It is very common for a father to say, for example: "I have five boys. I will make Billy a clergyman; John a lawyer; Tom a doctor, and Dick a farmer." He then goes into town and looks about to see what he will do with Sammy. He returns home, and says: "Sammy, I see watchmaking is a nice, genteel business; I think I will make you a goldsmith." He does this, regardless of Sam's natural inclinations or genius.

We are all, no doubt, born for a wise purpose. There is as much diversity in our brains as in our countenances. Some are born natural mechanics, while some have great aversion to machinery. Let a dozen boys of ten years get together, and you will soon observe two or three are "whittling" out some ingenious device; working with locks or complicated machinery. When they were but five years old their father could find no toy to please them like a puzzle. They are natural mechanics; but the other eight or nine boys have different aptitudes I belong to the latter class; I never had the slightest love for mechanism; on the contrary, I have a sort of abhorrence for complicated machinery. I never had ingenuity enough to whittle a cider-tap so it would not leak. I never could make a pen that I could write with, or understand the principle of a steam-engine. If a man was to take such a boy as I was, and attempt to make a watchmaker of him, the boy might, after an apprenticeship of five or seven years be able to take apart and put together a watch; but all through life he would be working uphill and seizing every excuse for leaving his work and idling away his time. Watchmaking is repulsive to him.

Unless a man enters upon the vocation intended for him by nature, and best suited to his peculiar genius, he cannot succeed. I am glad to believe that the majority of persons do find their right vocation. Yet we see many who have mistaken their calling from the blacksmith up (or down) to the clergyman. You will see, for instance, that extraordinary linguist, the "learned blacksmith," who ought to have been a teacher of languages; and you may have seen lawyers, doctors and clergymen who were better fitted by nature for the anvil or the lapstone.

[From a lecture P. T. Barnum gave on Dec. 29, 1858.]

(Of course, this applies to women too....)

I think you have to be happy doing what you're doing.... And precisely what that is will be different for everyone.... Which is great! I don't think a world full just of professional singers would do very well, for instance. Who would grow food? But also without singers, the world would be a poorer place.... :)

Julie, thanks for explaining, what you are talking about is very wise.... And anyone who takes your advice to heart will discover it's wisdom too.... :)

Thank you Julie :)

Dien Rice