How to Lose Friends and Influence Them to Disappear...

[GordonJ]

Tested and proven. Over the last few decades I've asked people; "What do you want?" and asking once might not annoy them, but again and again certainly does. But that isn't the question which gets people to disappear from my life.

It is repeating back their statement of woe and adding, "So what are you doing about it?"

Example. I lost my job, I'll be broke in a couple of months.

ME: "Oh, you lost your job and will be broke soon, what are doing about it?"

Other examples: I need to lose 20 pounds, then ME: " Oh you need to lose 20 pounds, "What are you doing about it? "

It is a fun way to get rid of people. Some of you reading this have been the victims of this vicious question. Said sayonara to Gordon. Fair enough, but it isn't me who should be asking this question...

go into the bathroom, close the door, and ask the person in the mirror this question, and WATCH his response.

Instead of, " I need some money." Ask your reflection this, "You need some money, so what are you doing about it?"

NOTE this: there is no GOING in this very annoying question, there is only the present tense, the DOING. The question is not, what are you going to do about this....because that is delay, future, sometime later.

Going to is fuzzy, vague and indefinite procrastination, DOING needs an answer today. SEE? Doing is now, going to is?

If the answer, for the moment it is asked is: "I'm thinking (or worse, worrying) about it." Then know this, you better get to doing today rather than tomorrow.

Now we add in the blame game with it.
Example. I was doing great with Amazon but then it changed things, sort of like the guys who blamed Google for changing their algorithm and destroying their article marketing business. Build your sandcastles on someone's beach, a beach you don't own, you can hardly blame them for your demise, can you?

Try this with yourself, keep it simple, say FIVE areas of your life.

1) IF your financial situation isn't what you want it to be, then ask YOURSELF, what am I doing about it?

2) If your relationships are not as good as they could be, ask yourself the question of the day, what am I doing about it?

3) If your location isn't where you want it ask you know, the ?

4) Your thinking, or learning; doing? or GOING TO

5) Your spiritual life, and feelings of self worth, contribution ???

IF everything is peachy keen/hunky dory and you live in sun filled green pastures where you frolick your days away...then simply answer, "nothing", and keep DOING whatever it is you are doing.

But if things are NOT as you want them to be, and they could be, things within your control, I'm sorry to be so annoying but...

what are you DOING about it?

GordonJ

[Dien Rice]

Originally Posted by GordonJ

Tested and proven. Over the last few decades I've asked people; "What do you want?" and asking once might not annoy them, but again and again certainly does. But that isn't the question which gets people to disappear from my life.

It is repeating back their statement of woe and adding, "So what are you doing about it?"

Example. I lost my job, I'll be broke in a couple of months.

ME: "Oh, you lost your job and will be broke soon, what are doing about it?"

Other examples: I need to lose 20 pounds, then ME: " Oh you need to lose 20 pounds, "What are you doing about it? "

Hi Gordon,

Wow... People don't like confronting that question! (I sometimes don't either!) It can be "hard"... Sometimes you don't know the answer.

But, it forces you to look for an answer, or to do something.

Most of us have multiple little businesses we could start, to make money. Some will take a while before the money comes rolling in, but others can get the money rolling in almost instantly.

For me, it's a matter of thinking, what can I offer that people want, especially people who can afford to pay me.

(The cold hard truth is, there's little point offering a product or service to those who can't afford it. So if you want to offer a service and charge $100 per hour or more, for example, then you need to target people or businesses who can afford to pay you that. Secondly, you have to convince them that you're worth at least that. Even better, convince them that you're worth more, and that they're getting you at a rate that's a steal.)

I think a good broad goal in life is to increase the products and services you can offer, which people will pay for. I call these your "urban survival skills." If one source of income dries up, it's great if you have 3, 5, or even 10 more sources of income you can tap into.

That's one way (as long as your health holds up) you can guarantee you'll continue to do okay financially, no matter rain, sunshine, or snow (literally or metaphorically).

Best wishes,

Dien

[Glenn]

Thanks Gordon,

During my Years Interviewing Affluent Small Biz owners
who attended Jay Abraham seminars I noticed Jay Used a Similar Question
to
THIN
the herd
on his year long Follow up conference Calls.

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Jay would Ask,

"Who has Taken Action this month?"

And you could hear a PIN DROP.

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A conference call of 50 got whittled down to 7 or 8 in just a few months.

I KNOW this happened a lot
cuz I bartered my way onto Multiple Conf Calls
for each of the 15 Jay Abraham events I attended.

Thanks,
Glenn