Here's another school of thought too...

Hi,

"Fear, pain and hard work are three of your best friends."

- Boyd

A while back on one of the post
Boyd, you said something about not
knowing what to do or not having
found what you wanted to do ...I
wonder if you know what you want
to do and are resistant for some
reason in doing it?

Barbara Sher,an author on finding what
you love, thinks most people know what
they want to do but minimize it's importance
or they feel they don't have the "skills"
to do it...Does the same hold true for you?
by the way her suggestion is to "do what ever
that is" and "to hell with what people think":
she suggests you take one step at the time.
Her reasoning is that if you're remotely interested in this thing then intuitively this
is what you should be doing...

What are your thoughts on this? I know your
answer will be enlightening ...

Thanks Sandy...

> "Fear, pain and hard work are three of
> your best friends."

> - Boyd

Hi,

Thank you--I'm flattered that you asked.

You wrote:
> A while back on one of the post
> Boyd, you said something about not
> knowing what to do or not having
> found what you wanted to do ...

Last night what I want to do finally jelled. I was easily able to write a mini business plan this morning, and I feel centered and calm about it, unlike the conflicted and angry way I've been in the past. It's not ultra-grandiose like the other plans I've made and I see how the parts link together.

You wrote:
> I
> wonder if you know what you want
> to do and are resistant for some
> reason in doing it?

Up until now I haven't known what I wanted to do. I assumed most people were like that and only the lucky few knew (like, say, Jodie Foster) knew what they wanted to do from a very young age. Maybe somewhere in my head I knew what I wanted to do but I created conflicts within myself that kept me from knowing what I knew.

You wrote:
> Barbara Sher,an author on finding what
> you love, thinks most people know what
> they want to do but minimize it's importance
> or they feel they don't have the
> "skills"
> to do it...

She may well be right, I always assumed most people were like me but that was just an assumption.

You wrote:
> By the way her suggestion is to "do
> what ever
> that is" and "to hell with what
> people think."

I'm glad to hear that because there are some things I wanted to do that I was afraid to do because of what people might think. But they can be done at a later date when the timing is right.

You wrote:
> she suggests you take one step at the time.
> Her reasoning is that if you're remotely
> interested in this thing then intuitively
> this
> is what you should be doing...

That sounds right to me--follow your intuition and creep up on what you should be doing.

Thank you very much for the question, I only hope what I write helps people and doesn't confuse the issues or throw people off track. I have good intentions about what I post, but you know the old saying about good intentions......

Best,

- Boyd