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Old August 13, 2022, 10:09 AM
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Default I found her to be Pablumatic.

Platitudes and pablum. Her advice:

Do something that proves your brain wrong. Do hard things. Try something new. Sharpen your skills.

Healthy self-confidence is built by mastering new things and overcoming things you once thought you couldn't.
When it comes to deciding what action you should take to build confidence, ask yourself, "What would I be doing if I had more self-confidence?" Then, go do those things.

It's as simple as that. Change your behavior first, and the way you think and feel will begin to shift.

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I'm sorry, appreciate the effort, but that is nothing but psycho babble. Nonsense.

If we could simply do the things we lack confidence in doing, by doing them...then the snake wouldn't be eating its tail.

What action? In golf it was very specific. In sales, it is specific, did you take action on selling tickets to comedy clubs, did you take action on being a band manager, did you take action to go to Africa?

In IM, and let me stick with my wheelhouse, INFORMATION, I have laid out a very specific step by step Plan Of Action, based on small steps.

A hotsheet.
A four page expansion, or White Paper.
A short report with pics, graphics.
A longer report from feedback, Q and A and more detail.

From there, one can go to a course.
Or a limited time membership.
Or affiliate.

In ecom, even though I don't ebay, or Amazon...I do buy and sell using Internet, but the small action is going to a garage sale, just did that.

Selling one thing on Marketplace. Just did that.
Reinvesting into stored value.

Etc. Etc.

These are very specific ACTION steps, not simplistic "do hard things" as the esteemed Psychotherapost would have you do...I mean, if we could simply do hard things, then there wouldn't be a lack of confidence.

Honestly, I appreciate you researching this, and of course, a Psychotherapist should be taken more seriously than ME.

Maybe that is why millions are in therapy to begin with, they just THINK they need that specialist help, when maybe what mommy and daddy told them when they were ten, would suffice.

Not to rant. Albeit, maybe I did...but whatever someone wants to do, there have been footprints in the sand, to follow, they haven't been washed away by the tides of time.


Originally Posted by Dien Rice View Post
Hi Gordon,

Thanks for sharing your "Hit the ball" story...

It reminded me... some teach that confidence comes from action...

The idea is - take ACTION first... (Like hitting the ball!)

Confidence then results from that...

Not the other way around...

Good food for thought!

Here's an article I found along those lines...

As a Psychotherapist, This Is the Biggest Mistake I See People Make When It Comes to Self-Confidence

Awesome story, Gordon, full of a lot of wisdom!

Best wishes,

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